Tae Heckard Ends Domestic Partnership with....Another Woman?!



Sheesh...

Well, along with all the craziness of spectators stating their opinions about Tae Heckard (ex-beau of Nelly) and Brandon Jennings (Point Guard of Detroit Pistons AND former longtime beau of actress/singer, Teyana Taylor), it seems as if they may be moving towards a more serious side of life as a couple.

Lashontae Heckard, ex-video vixen and star in show, "The Game" has filed for an end to her domestic partnership with a woman named Monique Blanton - who she partnered with back in 2008.

In legal notes, Tae was noted to say that she split with Blanton for "irreconcilable differences" in 2011.

This would free her up to legally become married now, wouldn't it?

And all this time I thought the "Twitter wives" she claimed were just her buddies ((snort laughs)). Either way, her relationship with Jennings seems to be moving at lightning speed.

Actor Michael Jace - Charged With Killing Wife and Documented Abuse with Ex-Wife



Michael Jace, an actor best known for his role on TV’s “The Shield,” has been charged in the 

fatal shooting of his wife, CNN reports.

April Jace, 40, was found shot to death in her south Los Angeles home by police called there to 

investigate a shooting, Los Angeles Police Detective Lyman Doster said.

TMZ is reporting that the actor called 911 himself and admitted that he pulled the trigger.


According to TMZ:
According to law enforcement sources Jace called 911 around 8:30 p.m. and told police, “I shot my wife.”“We’re told Jace’s neighbors in the Hyde Park area of L.A. had reported shots fired in the home, and shortly thereafter Jace made his call to 911.Sources tell us the 48-year-old actor stayed on the phone, as instructed, until LAPD arrived and found his 40-year-old wife, April Jace dead.We’re told Jace was home alone when his wife arrived with their kids. A short time later he allegedly shot her.Jace was taken into custody, and as of 1:00 a.m. Tuesday was being questioned.

This reminds me of a similar story where a dear friend of mine was shot and killed in her daycare about 4 years ago.  She had separated with her husband and moved into a house down the street from where her and her husband lived.  She was involved with the neighbor from the house she was in while married (I'm not sure if their relationship formed before or after the separation) but she received flowers a few days after Valentine's Day and by the beginning of March, the neighbor she was involved with came to her home in the morning around 7am.  Her daughter let the neighbor in and went down the stairs.  The neighbor opened fire on my friend, shooting her to death then turned the gun on himself.

It's hard to know that many of these murders are romantically-inspired.  Most people involved in a murder trial know each other.

I feel like there's no easy way to pinpoint a person's potential behavior but I do feel that if someone has made threats, they should not be taken lightly under any circumstances.

With actor, Michael Jace there are documents that accused him of being abusive towards his previous wife in their divorce settlement.  According to a witness and friend of the ex-wife, Jace strangled his ex in front of their infant child.

I believe the biggest factor in these types of situations are to never "sleep" on someone's potential. Abusive relationships are very likely to escalate over time - especially if there are no steps towards intervention that can attempt to identify the cause or origin of the behavior.

Torrei Hart Says, "I Wanted to Punch Eniko in the Face"


THERE ARE TONS OF MIXED REACTIONS ON THE LATEST INTERVIEW WITH KEVIN HART'S EX-WIFE, TORREI HART. SHE IS NOW SAYING CLEAR AS DAY THAT HIS CURRENT GIRLFRIEND OF FIVE YEARS, ENIKO PARRISH WAS IN FACT ONE OF THE WOMEN HE WAS INVOLVED WITH DURING THEIR SHAKY MARRIAGE.

(ENTERTAINMENT TONIGHT FOOTAGE WITH TORREI HART, ALONG WITH HER FELLOW CAST OF NEW REALITY SHOW, ATLANTA EXES.)


TORREI'S INTERVIEW EVENTUALLY MADE ITS WAY TO SOCIAL MEDIA WHERE HER AND KEVIN STATED THEIR VIEWS (INDIRECTLY MIGHT I ADD).



Torrei pretty much re-stated how she was there for Kevin in his earliest hours supporting his dream and most of this was brought on after the "rib" comment he made about present girlfriend, Eniko Parrish.  

The thing that bothers me the most about this is how some people dismiss her interview as if she's beating a "dead horse", but never stop to think how they would respond if they were in a similar situation.

It's really easy to call someone else out about how they look publicly when they're not being "politically correct".  If I had to ask myself if Torrei was trying to hurt Kevin's following/career by making these statements, I would have to say no.  I believe that she felt validated to speak her side because Kevin has always talked about his past, his family, and his life in his work.  

So, it's okay for Kevin to become a millionaire off of his life stories, but his ex-wife isn't allowed to say anything about how she feels?  

I'm actually happy someone on this planet in some form of spotlight has made an attempt to keep it 100 and not save face because of how people abuse the term, "hater", "bitter", and etc.  Her being a black woman already puts her in this category from judgments within our own race, but many of the people judging this woman are seriously NOT putting themselves in her shoes (if they can at all).  It's one thing to be unattached - you're not in love with anyone, and then tell someone else how they should manage their hurt.  

But when you BECOME that person and you're not only seeing that your family transferred to someone who didn't have to suffer in the gym while you were shooting, and THEN to have that new person be labeled as a "RIB" - I can understand her emotions and trying to find a way to heal from a constant reminder that it's over.  

That's not to say she is a victim either.  No one knows who was the problem behind closed doors when they were a couple.  It could have been Torrei, or both or just Kevin.  However, when Kevin made personal stories public access (comedy material or not), he opened the flood gates of this conversation and nobody seemed to have a problem with him bringing up his past for laughs even though one of the parties involved probably wasn't laughing at all.  

Anyway...my rant wasn't supposed to be this long, but I truly believe as much money as Torrei is receiving from Kevin, it's not about that for her.  I don't sense that from her at all.  I sense a woman who loved a man she lost to the prototype of what is expected to be on his arm in Hollywood.  

And it's easier to leave someone you're obligated to (baby mama) than to go to someone who you don't have a shared responsibility with and who will be everything you want them to be because you're a friggin millionaire.  Plus, do you know how many chicks out here could care less about snatching somebody's man?  Puh-leeeeease.  It kills me how we make excuses for infidelity more than the support of a marriage in 2014.  It's sad.

I know, I know, I'd have to be a guy (maybe a White or Asian one) for someone to truly take my points as valid (just kidding, kind of).

I encourage people to put themselves in the shoes of Torrei.  I don't know too many people who would act so politically correct if the information she shared was true.  And that's MALE or FEMALE.  

Still love Kevin though, but it is what it is.  I don't blame Torrei for keeping it 100.  It's rough out here with all these judgmental folks.



Is A Woman Asking for a Problem With Her Husband if she "Let's Herself Go"?


My opinion is split down the middle on this one.  The fact is we live in a time where looks make up for 98% of our entertainment and the other 2% is comedy based on awful looks.  That percentage is probably as jacked up as the situation I'm asking about, but I've always been torn on this subject honestly.

The truth is that as we age, our looks will begin to change for the worse.  I know that everyone loves to say "black don't crack", and sure we have a few people who have hit the senior citizen mark looking damn good for their age (50s, 60s, even 70s) - but honestly, everyone isn't a fitness guru, a beauty conduit, or a person who wants to spend their life obsessing about a wrinkle, saggy body part, etc. for the rest of their lifetime.

I DO understand and believe that men (however) are very visual creatures.  I DO get the fact that men often crave physical things they would appreciate in their woman - but I know for damn sure that they won't trade the physical for other wholesome qualities unless he's lacking them within himself.  I believe the "hoes that win" are only winning to another whore honestly.  Men that spend so much energy celebrating and/or mentioning/entertaining women who have very low respect for themselves (IMO) are products of failed upbringings and value systems.  I'm not saying that a man who loves T&A wasn't raised right, but a man who would entertain street booty in a serious way beyond the sexual could probably sit on a couch for a few years about where his childhood went wrong.

Anyway...I'm not writing to bash, (I promise I'm not lol) but with keeping up appearance, I would be lying if I said I've never been moved (positively or negatively) about the way a man keeps himself up.  Hygiene and overall presence is one thing, but I'm not about to disown you if you're not GQ man candy of the week.  And...I do know it's often much different for men versus women.

I believe there is balance in this though.  A woman who stops putting pride into her appearance is definitely opening a door to not just other more attractive women being noticed, but for their mate to notice their neglect in a negative light.  There should be enough self-attentiveness on a lady's part where she respects regular grooming, regular hygiene, regular skin care, her curves (whether modest or ba-donk-like).

If my man was around the house not washing his ass, looking like Cousin It in the face (I love facial hair BTW, but not a rain forest), wearing things that look like he searches trash cans for dinner scraps, I would probably be searching him for crack like substances before I ask him what the hell is the problem.

But on the flip side of this, I feel like any man who would make his woman feel "less than" because she isn't a centerfold or she picked up some weight, or any other sign of "not perfect" is still in the Similac phases of his manhood.

Like I said, there's nothing wrong with standards and preferences, but a lasting bond should be based on the friendship and connection that goes beyond physical gratification.  Yeah, if a person is going off the deep end looking a hot ass mess (aka embarrassment), I can completely understand having an issue, a talk or discussion.

But if that's your other half...imperfections shouldn't break something that should be solid beyond the superficial.


She Makes $200k a Year, and He Makes $40k....Is There a Problem???


Sometimes, it's hard to think for yourself when you have loved ones in your ear.  Sometimes their input is helpful, but other times it can cause a world of problems, including the potential loss of a real connection.

There are too many people who don't have their sh*t together in their own personal lives who love to tell someone who has more going for them (at the time) what they need to be doing. Sometimes even a person who is in a relationship has a wealth of bad advice for their friend or relative because of their lack of perspective, or they can't even relate.

After peeping the play, "Ms. Independent" that showcased in Washington, DC at the Warner Theatre, it had me thinking about the way others come in-between people and their relationships with inconsiderate input.

FACT: BEING DISTRACTED IS ONE OF THE MAIN KILLERS OF INTIMATE BONDS!!!!

Some of the strongest alliances I can think of have one major thing in common: their connection cannot be easily shaken (if at all) by the opinions of others.  

In the play, Carleena (played by Robin Givens) was set up by her mother to be driven away from her husband -- using another man (singer Christopher Williams) to lure her away.  Some people have situations that aren't as crazy and the input from loved ones are more subtle, but there is still manipulation involved where someone else's agenda is being carried out.

And it's definitely not just with a woman.  Sometimes a man's "crew" gets in the middle of his mindset and has him messing up priorities as well.  It's valid on both sides of the equation to say that both people in a relationship need to come into the situation with an open mind and their own independent thoughts.

If you can't think for yourself, you are going to have a hard time being a good catch for somebody else.  I know a lot of people in denial about the fact that they don't think for themselves too. Make sure you check your mirrors for more than a quick selfie.

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10 Things About Solange and Jay-Z That No One Else Has Said


1.)  There are approximately 5,459,298,635,209,137,349 stories on social media outlets that will give their spin to what they believe happened on that videotape.

2.)  All the people who judge other people who have commented on the elevator fight are spending just as much of their mental space on it as the people they're judging.  (YEP, GO BACK AND READ THAT AGAIN, I'LL WAIT.)

3.)  Some people like watching Sci-Fi. Some like to watch politics and C-Span. Some people like watching Honey Boo an' dem.  Other people like celebrity tabloid gossip.  Which certainly didn't begin when social media got popular. Entertainment Tonight first aired on television in 1981 - which should tell you how long people have tuned into the latest news about well-known public personalities.  This is nothing new so people need to stop judging others so harshly about the fact that it's a juicy story that got attention.

4.)  If you're tired of seeing status updates, memes, and commentary about the latest hot topics, STOP LOOKING AT IT AND GO READ A BOOK.

5.)  YES, people are going to wear those memes and status updates out about this story until it catches an STD and decides to stop being whored out.

6.)  Nobody knows whether Beyonce was thinking about her image, the fact that her sister may have had a point, or if she had too much Ciroc to defend her husband.  We can only guess or say who gives a damn.

7.)  Solange might resemble Orlando Jones in a picture or 3, but Solange is beautiful.  She's also looked like a ton of other people in various pictures - the late, Aaliyah being one of them.  Leave that damn girl alone.

8.) Solange walked out of that afterparty like OG Bobby Johnson.

9.) Beyonce will kick your ass in a poker game.  That game face DOES NOT CHANGE. She busted her entire ass on stage in that sparkly red dress at one of her concerts and had that same facial expression below while she scraped herself up off the floor and kept whipping her hair back and forth.



10.  There IS a slight chance in hell that Jay-Z could do a rap verse or 2 in the near future providing some type of clue as to what happened.  He wrote about the Cuba situation and several other mishaps that came up, so you never know.

Did The Dream Really Hit His Ex-Girl?! Say it Ain't So...


Goodness, I thought The Dream's past relationship with Christina Milian was messy enough, but now it seems as if his latest ex, Lydia Nam has the producer/songwriter/artist slammed with a charge of felony assault.

Dream is telling friends, the reason he was charged Wednesday with felony assault and strangulation is all because Lydia Nam was about to be kicked out of the U.S.

Her visa is set to expire shortly.  Dream says she found out there's a special Visa that allows immigrants to remain in the country if they're crime victims and they're needed in the prosecution of the perpetrator.  (info courtesy of TMZ.com)


The problem with these types of stories are that some women really DO lie about being abused and hurt all for the sake of material gain, public disposition and the like.  It really makes it hard for women who actually lived through an abusive situation to stand firm on what they went through.  It's hard enough to admit what happened, but to know that some people blatantly lie about things like this only enhances a messed up situation.

Sadly enough, there's a child involved in all this craziness.  It's tragic when your personal headlines are making more noise than your talent.  #OurWorldTheseDays 




A BAD BITCH is EMPOWERING!!!


At least...that's what she thinks she is.

More and more as I spend a few seconds too long on social media, I am finding more and more people talking this subject that really hurts me to my soul - not just for the state of the urban community, but for my little girls that have to exist as adults one day in this craziness.

Jada Pinkett made a video about it (might I add just days before her daughter was shown in a very racy picture in bed with a 20 year old man ((long deep sigh on that one)), but she did comment about this along with a Facebook friend of mine who made a status about this current generation of twenty-somethings and etc. who are influencing a new level of behavior that is hurting us.

The era of the "Bad Bitch" has become VIRAL among the mindsets of many women.  There are a ton of girls and grown ass women who feel empowered and strong when they describe themselves like this.

The only problem is...IT'S FRAUDULENT.

There's a TON of women who claim they would rather not have to deal with the emotional strain of a committed relationship, so they will take the role of a "side-chick", "other woman", or say they aren't worried about what he does. Then in the same breath, complain that they can't trust anyone.  But didn't you just become the untrustworthy party by sleeping with someone's man? Also if there's children involved, the responsibility is usually uneven in broken households, so how can a woman say that she doesn't have to deal with emotional strain when most of the time, they are usually complaining about some level of uneven responsibility?  These feelings are usually masked with condescending and passive-aggressive statuses online and a ton of other crap that doesn't solve anything.

That's not to say in all broken households that the man isn't stepping up, but there's a difference between daily household responsibility and visitation responsibilities.  HUGE DIFFERENCE.

Going back to the "Bad Bitch" label (however), the biggest thing that is so wack about this dynamic is the absence of responsibility.  There's no real effort involved where a male must grow to be a man to provide.  All of this is more of a business transaction where the woman is the object.  Sure, they might be cool with one another, but we weren't built as humans to be alone. We were made to attach to one another.  Just like men are territorial about who they are with and care for, women get attached and eventually want to care for and love the person they put time and energy into.

Once upon a time, we understood this as a society.  Now...everyone is saying things like, "who made these rules" and "some people aren't built for relationships" and blah blah (STFU) blah.  And honestly, THEY'RE RIGHT!  Some people AREN'T BUILT FOR RELATIONSHIPS because they were broken from childhood and put through a lot of bullshit by their environment. They may have been abused by someone as a kid or as an adult and became so afraid of attachment that they come across on these social media pages trying to make other people feel as broken as they are.

There are lot of these wack ass people who come disguised as comedians or whatever they choose to call themselves, but there's no description of an actual mature adult in any of this behavior.

It takes MATURITY to commit yourself to something and someone.  It takes MATURITY to not give into your selfish impulses and to put yourself in the shoes of another person.

There's too many people out here who DISH SHIT THEY WOULD NOT BE ABLE TO TAKE.  I think that alone is one of the biggest things that piss me off about this upbringing-deprived set of dumbasses we have out here nowadays.  People who don't put themselves in the position of a person they deal a f*cked up hand to.

I like being appreciated for my appearance just like any other woman, but do I think getting "Likes" on social media mean anything beyond some dudes who want to see how quick they can get me in a bedroom?  HELL NO.

I was taught better than that.  Comments and likes and compliments don't mean SH*T.  Do these people call me to ask me if I'm okay?  Would they give a damn if I was sick, or if my family was going through something?

When the party stops, which one of those dudes that appreciated your ass cheeks splattered online wants to have a deep convo about the future and the legacy you want to leave behind for following generations?  If your parents or relative was sick, who would visit them in the hospital or check on the family?

WHO REALLY GIVES A SH*T ABOUT YOU BESIDES WHAT YOU COULD DO TO BENEFIT THEM?

These assholes don't care about you girl.  They want to get a nut and they want to talk shit about you when they're done.  They want to make you feel like something is wrong with you if you care about something meaningful because "It's just Facebook" and "It's Just Instagram".

All that fix-a-flat you pumped into your ass and boobs...all that MAC you painted on...that sew-in weave down to your fake assets is all so someone can use you, THEN tell you you're good enough to f*ck, but not to love.  Especially chicks that aren't "exotic".  Nah girl, you gotta tell him you got some Spanish or Indian in your family just so he'll halfway treat you like you're worth a dinner before the fu*k instead of just the fu*k.

Ask yourself if you have a kid, if you would be cool with some of the dudes you deal with talking to them.  What about your mom?  Are they good enough to talk to her?

I hate certain slang (GOD knows I do) but the expression, "F*ck N*ggas" is so appropriate for some of these punk ass negros.

I am in no way trying to bash men as a whole, so don't come at me with that BS, but these dudes who RATIONALIZE and try to tell women to lower their standards of being respected as a human in order to "kick it" need to get sent to a "grown man boot camp".

That's what needs to happen.  Men are considered the "head of household" in marriage, they are the stronger beings biologically, so I believe them to be responsible for taking the LEAD.  We have too many men who don't understand that because nobody taught them anything.

How can the cycle stop?  I don't want to say we're doomed and throw in the towel because as a mother, this is the world my girls have to live in.  I honestly don't know how anyone who has a daughter can not be outraged by the patterns we have in society today.

There is a time and place for everything.  A stripper belongs in a strip club.  Porn belongs on porno sites or subscriptions.  Hoes belong on the strip if that's their hustle.  Why we have brought all this sh*t to the mainstream world for everyone to see and be influenced by is retarded as hell.

THE URBAN COMMUNITY is the only branch of the world where we can't seem to understand how to put sh*t in its proper place.  We condone so much ignorance, then wonder why it's there in the first place.  Duhhhhh...because we get these dumbasses paid by tuning in.

Women who tell a dude it's "OK" with their cooch every time he hits, but can't be seen with her in public. Then she has a NERVE to laugh when some wack ass dude makes fun of her type of behavior like it's funny.  This dude just BLATANTLY defined you as nothing.  How did we get so damn stupid?

My rant could go on forever.  And ever.  And EVER.

(This is your ass. Dummy.)

Would an Unappealing Man or Woman Suddenly Become Appealing in the Right Car?!


I remember a male friend of mine said years ago to another mutual male friend that owned a pretty laid out BMW 640i, (something like that) that half his work was done with getting a female because of his car.

I feel like, as much as my father was a true Cadillac man, I never really got attached to cars like that. I definitely don't want to drive around with a car with emphysema that coughs and chokes at me, but I've never wanted a man more because he had pretty wheels.  I just haven't.  And it certainly didn't change my mind if I didn't want him in the first place.  I actually know a lot of lame ass guys with dope rides unfortunately.  I might sound like a hater but I don't give a damn, y'all should know that about me by now.  Call me what you want, but if you have a Jaguar with an '82 Volkswagen personality, that car won't make any chemistry magically appear on my behalf.

Apparently Ray-J has landed a 7-figure TV deal with VH-1 where he spends about 1/2 a million on "His and Hers" exotic sports cars.  He's currently with a ladybug named Princess Love and spent an attractive penny on a Bentley Continental convertible for Ms. Love -- and a Ferrari 458 for himself.  (Info courtesy of TMZ.com)

I mean, most people would say that I've never had a celebrity pull up for me in a luxury car so I need to shut the hell up...and now that I just said that, I probably do.  ((snort laughs))

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